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I know this is an older post, but it showed up as a link in something else, and so I followed it, and I’m grateful I did. As I get older (late 60s), I celebrate the birth days of my parents and my older sister, and friends who have gone before me into the great unknown. The death days were so awful, I chose to let them go and instead think of them on the happiest day, when they made their arrival into this world. I still cry, I still miss them, but it’s a little easier not having to think of them in hospital or dying of something, but as the people I remember so well, the good moments, the glimmers in their lives that I am reminded of on those birthday remembrances. I love your refuge ideas, and I may try that, as a way to see them in a new light, maybe new glimmers.

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Thank you for reading and sharing all of this, Annie. I love that you cling to the good memories. I try to, as well. Sending you love and light this holiday season!

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Thank you for sharing this moving piece. I could relate to both the joy you felt, being at the museum with your daughters, and the glimmers you shared with Preston

I had not heard the term “glimmers” before and it’s so perfect. I recognize those moments but didn’t have a name for them.

I loved reading about your museum trip with your girls. I’m glad it was a successful first trip as a trio, first of many I’m sure. Going to art museums with Kiki was one of our best shared activities, and I go now, solo, hoping to connect with her.

I love your description of standing in front of the Matisse. “Black is a color of light”. I had a remarkable experience recently, in Roswell NM at a Susan Marie Dopp installation. I was the only person there and sat for a long time absorbing it.

Finding these places of refuge can be such an important way of getting through the hard days.

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I'm glad you got to experience "glimmers" with your daughter and have found solace in art museums and galleries as I have. What I'm learning is that when I'm at my lowest is when I most need to receive art and when I'm at my highest is when I need to give it. May we continue to give and receive humanity's most beautiful gift 🎁 Thank you so much for reading, Tina, and for your encouragement 🙏

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